Implementing Special Play Time at Home
The Association for Play Therapy defines play therapy as “the systematic use of a theoretical model to establish an interpersonal process wherein trained Play Therapists use the therapeutic powers of play to help clients prevent or resolve psychosocial difficulties and achieve optimal growth and development.”
Working with a Registered Play Therapist is typically the most beneficial and effective way to implement emotional growth within a family. However, we understand that committing to consistent sessions and finding time to get to appointments can be challenging. Keep reading for some ways to practice “special play time” with your child at home.
The Power of Relationship in Play
In some models of play therapy, it is taught that the “most important toy” in the playroom is the therapist, meaning a relationship alone has the power to heal. Therefore, your ongoing relationship, through play, with your child can be equally significant – if not more so!
Special play time is a time for you to understand your child’s inner world better, build increased connections, encourage, and practice reflection. Special play time does not have to be lengthy, though it should be consistent and something your child can count on and look forward to! This one-on-one time “fills your child’s bucket” and will bring you increased joy, compassion, and curiosity toward your child.
Tips for Implementing Special Play Time
- Prepare your child with language explaining your commitment to starting something new with them called “special play time.” Aim for about 20–30 minutes of uninterrupted time. Silence your phone and set aside “to-do’s” for this important time.
- Let your child lead the play and be the boss. For 20–30 minutes, take a break from your “manager” roles.
- Ask your child for clarification on what to do, what character to play, and how to respond.
- Meet your child in their energy! If dramatic play is what they need, be dramatic; if wild excitement is their vibe, match it!
- It’s okay to set boundaries to keep everyone safe. Use gentle and direct communication so your child still feels connected and engaged.
- Let your child know when there are 3–5 minutes left of special play time. If your child is upset when it ends, reflect together on how fun and meaningful the time was, and remind them it will happen again.
Does My Child Need Special Play Time?
Your child likely needs scheduled special play time if you notice increased attention-seeking behaviors, outbursts, withdrawn behavior, or anxious symptoms. There is no downside to planning extra connection and fun with your child.
If you have questions about this or would like to work with a Registered Play Therapist, please contact Ruah Integrative Counseling.
Caroline Racher Turak